Dealing with Challenges
Women in Japan and Korea share the same dilemma when it comes to dealing with patriarchy. Traditionally, men are in charge of being the head of the household and finances, while women are seen as someone who only tends to children and chores.
“I want to have time to myself. It’s annoying to have to tell my husband every time I want to do something,” shared a 46-year-old woman who wants to break free from doing chores.
Because of the traditional confines of these gender roles, many women are also forced to stop exploring their dreams.
“I think men who deny their wives sotsukon have been living a self-centered existence,” said Kazumi Yamamoto, who delivers seminars on the logistics of graduation of marriage. A graduate of marriage herself, she finally did her life-long ambition of opening her own beauty clinic in Tokyo.
Another 56-year old woman said that she and her husband do not have much to say to each other and he thinks she is just her maid.
“But I don’t want to divorce or I might feel lonely when my health becomes weaker,” she added.
Dai-ichi Life Research Institute Inc. executive researcher Yasuko Matoba shared that couples are now less committed to work division based on gender.
“More and more people are departing from the conventional gender-based division of work, such as wives taking care of their husbands. This trend probably has led to increasing interest in sotsukon,” reporte Matoba.